Others grasp the secret psychological trick
First, understanding and human nature
Improve interpersonal communication and interpersonal skills to master the success of the first step are: the correct understanding of the human person and nature.
Understanding of human nature and can be simply summed up as - "in accordance with the nature of people to agree with them", "agree with and look at people", rather than use their own vision to look at other people, not to impose their will on others. First of all, of their own people are interested in, rather than of interest to you! In other words - a person concerned about their own concerns than ten thousand times you. Recognizing that "people first of all concerned are their own rather than you" This is the key to life.
Second, how to skillfully talk with others
When you talk with people, choose the topic they are most interested. They are most interested in the topic what is it? Are their own! These words from your dictionary removed out - "I, myself, my." Use another word, a human language in the most powerful word to replace it - "you." Are you interested in on the conversation is not important, it is important whether or not your audience's interest. When you talk with people, please talk about each other and guide each other to talk about themselves. So you can become a most popular conversation partners.
Three, how to skillfully give people the impression it important
One of the most universal human characteristic is - eager to be recognized, eager to be understood. Interpersonal relations among you is willing to like a duck to water it? So, please try to make others aware of the importance of their own. Remember, the more you make people feel that their own importance, others return to you more.
1. To listen to their
2. Praise and compliment them
3. As often as possible the use of their names and photographs
4. In answering them, please pause a little
5. The use of these words - "you" and "your"
6. Sure those people who wait to see you
7. Concern Group everyone
Fourth, how subtly endorse others
Do not forget that any fool can be opposed to others, and only the wise and great men will agree with - especially when the other party when mistakes! "Endorsed the art" can be summarized as the following 6 points:
1. Institute of approval and accreditation
2. When you agree with someone else, please say so
3. When you do not agree with the time, do not tell them, unless a last resort
4. When you make a mistake they must be ready to admit
5. To avoid controversy with people
6. The right deal with the conflict
Agree art is rooted in --
1. People like to agree with them.
2. People do not like to oppose them.
3. People do not like to be opposed.
Fifth, how to skillfully listen to others
Listen more, you will become more intelligent, will be more popular, it will become a better conversation partner. Of course, to become a good listener, not an easy task, and here I have 5 o'clock recommended for reference:
1. Monitor speaker
2. Close to the speaker, concentrate on listening
3. Question
4. Do not interrupt the speaker's topic
5. The use of the speaker's call - "you" and "your"
Sixth, how subtly affect others
To people in accordance with your wishes to do things the first step is to identify the reasons for them to do so (that is what they want). And others say that they want to hear things, they moved. You simply explain to them, as long as you ask them to do things to do after they get what they want. "Understanding what people want to" approach are: many asked many observations, many listen, together with unremitting efforts.
Seven, how to skillfully convince others
When you say something in favor of their own affairs, people usually doubt you and you said, this is a manifestation of the instinct. Is a better way: Do not directly explained, but to quote others, let others here talking to you, even if those people are not at the scene. Therefore, in order to go through a third party's mouth a speech.
Pat, how cleverly others make decisions
1. To tell people why to agree with you. Tell people, in accordance with what you said to do they will benefit, rather than your own benefit.
2. Question can only be used "on" to answer. However, it should be noted that the proper question these "the" problem. In other words, when you ask such questions, should be a nod, and "you" to the beginning of your question.
3. Let people in the two "good" by choosing one. This technique is to let them in your two "could" select a.
4. Look forward to people you say "good", and let them know that you expect them to make an affirmative answer
9, how to skillfully mobilize the sentiments of others
1. Remember, any moment between the initial contacts often determines the tone of the process.
2. Next, the use of human behavior the second basic law - People always react to others with a strong group
Therefore, in the beginning, the moment you come into contact with eyes, before you speak before you break the silence, please show your warm smile. There will always be aware of should not, how much to pay, there is the number of returns. Do not forget, from now on, please show your smile, just like professional actors as models, and said to myself - "smile!"
Ten, how to praise others skillfully
More generous, others commend you go! To find some people and things worthy of praise, and then commended them.
1. To sincerely
2. Commends the act itself, rather than pay tribute to people
Must pay tribute to the specific - to targeted. Happiness Formula - a daily habit of the people pay tribute to three different habits. You may feel that to do so, you how happy he is! When you see others do so to bring happiness, joy and gratitude, you will also find their own happiness.
Eleven, how subtly criticize others
1. Criticisms must be made to get along in a separate
2. Criticized the former must give a little praise or compliment
3. Criticism, do not target people, to criticize an act, but do not criticize a person
4. To provide answers
5. Seek cooperation rather than command
6. A mistake, one criticism
7. Ending friendly way to criticize
Twelve, how clever to thank others
Only in their own hearts gratitude, appreciation of others is not enough, should be grateful that you, the feelings of appreciation to those who deserve your gratitude to express.
1. Attitude to sincerely
2. A clear, natural expression of
3. Watching you appreciate the other side
4. Thanks to say each other's name when
5. Make every effort to thank
Thirteen, how cleverly to leave a good impression on others
If you want beautiful, beautiful up on their own first. If you want other people's appreciation to you, admire you, respect you, you must feel you are worthy to receive this honor. Proud for your own bar (but do not own!) As your own, for your career, for your work environment and proud; not for you the current situation and the inadequacy and inferiority. You are your own - to respect themselves, to feel proud for themselves.
1. In good faith
2. To warm
3. No need to over-hasty
4. Do not belittle someone else to raise their own through
5. Do not crack down on anyone, anything
14. How skillfully speak
1. Understand you said the contents of
2. Having said that, on the cessation of
3. To speak, please watch the audience
4. To talk about some of the audience interested in the topic
5. Do not try to lecture
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